The Stable Bow 10:30am

How do you show your appreciation for someone?

Presents?

Distributing generous praise?

Being Loyal?

Your Time without interruption?

Devotion?

Your unconditional Acceptance?

Ok...let me divert...and I'll get back here...I think...

It's universal that all parents complain about their toddlers/children and the various stages they are experiencing...often these struggles relate to these areas...


Potty training
Sharing
Bed time
Meal times

We all can recognize that our children want to feel Strong and in control...but sometimes it is difficult for us adults because we want to think that we are needed...it feels good when you can help someone else...and it sometimes hurts when you feel your help is not appreciated or even wanted...

But to empower someone else...to empower our children...is one way we can show our appreciation and acceptance...


When you change your point of view from "Helping" your little one to "Empowering" your little one...this way of thinking can change your relationship...

How do we show our children we believe, truly believe that they are Strong, Competent, and powerful...?

Children with a strong sense of "Agency" believe that they are capable, they believe that if they try something, eventually, even after setbacks, they will be able to do it... 

How do children learn to be resilient?


As with anything...practice...


But we have to let them play...


Play to practice and develop this resiliency... 

Showing your child that you value Play...


Let go of your own Agenda and Play too!!!!


At The Wonder Studio...some ways, we can show our appreciation for our children is by: 


trusting them...
Following their lead...
Not jumping in right away to solve those teeny tiny little problems...
Allowing them time and space to work on their problems and celebrating that journey, not just the successes.

Do we want to make life easy for our children...or be there for them when life is hard...let them know we are the rock they can come home to... 

I leave you with this poem...in honor of Mother's Day...

On Children
 Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.